Who Takes You to the Woodshed?

Yesterday I had a hard conversation with two friends. Over the course the hour, they took me to the woodshed over a decision that I was making… or trying not to make.

Throughout the course of my leadership journey, I have learned that one of the most important gifts that I have been given is a tight network of friends who will push me when I need to be pushed… even when I don’t like it. This means when I say something stupid, do something unwise, avoid making decisions, or am in a funk, they gracefully press me on it.

When observing today’s church landscape, it is hard to miss the examples of church leaders who do not actively pursue friends that are willing to take them to the woodshed over issues in their life and leadership. As we become more effective and influential in our leadership, it becomes easier to ignore these types of friends and the wisdom that they give. It becomes easier to believe that we don’t need these naysayers in our inner circle, and easier to tune out those who are trying to care for our soul.

The way that we respond to our woodshed moments will not only define our leadership, but in many ways it will define the culture, and effectiveness, of the church that we lead. A leader who refuses to be admonished by Godly men is headed for a disaster that will take the church he leads, and many in the congregation, down with him.

Today I am grateful for guys like Doug, David, Chet, Earl, and Brad who have faithfully taken me to the woodshed through the years. I am grateful for their commitment to my leadership development, the development of my faith, and their willingness to say hard things for the sake of the Kingdom.

Who takes YOU to the woodshed?


About the Author: Matt Steen

I love Jesus, Theresa (my wife), the Redskins & Capitals, and am currently living in Waco, Texas where I am studying the finer points of BBQ (while working on my MDiv and MBA at Baylor University). When not studying, I serve church leaders through and am the Director of Connections for Harris Creek Baptist Church's Downtown Campus.